“When we seek fault in others we tend to find problems. When we seek fault in ourselves we tend to solve problems.” —Cavario H.
Ever increasing degrees of self-responsibility is an unavoidable burden for even a semi-functional person beyond their toddling years. When you were first learning your world, you had to figure out your role in it all. For the first half dozen or so years, someone else is largely responsible for virtually every step that you take. When you fell down, there was rarely the thought, “I need to be more careful.” It was more like, “Somebody come fix this.” And if it took too long for someone to come to your aid, then its likely that you began to blame them for your lack of thought, preparation or plain ol’ balance. If that habit of expectation has not been replaced with a habit of self-responsibility then you likely still entertain such expectations. If this is so then disappointment will forever be your destination. Your condition is the result of your thought process and not the actions, or lack there of, of others.