When a person is without “self-love”, which means they have low/no self-esteem it’s usually due to being neglected, abused or traumatized in some way, during their developmental years when they have no control over their experiences.
Due to such circumstances when these individuals reach an age where they can direct their own lives they tend to seek outside of themselves the piece that they grow up believing they are missing.
They typically focus on another person and, in their own mind, decide that IF they could just get THAT person to love them then that missing “piece” will magically manifest within them.
If you find yourself pursuing someone who is non-responsive, resistant or apparently uninterested but you are still “determined to change their mind,” or “prove to them that you are worthy,” then YOU are likely one of those individuals. And it is highly likely you will only create more misery and conflict in your life because what you so desperately seek is NOT in another person.
You must discovery a way to heal before you can attract a peaceful, harmonious, loving connection with another person.